Dad is in an ALF and this is his second one. The first one he was in, he made a fuss about chest pain, etc., and was sent to the hospital. He had a touch of pneumonia, so he was there for a couple of weeks while we found him a new place, since he hated that one so much. I've told him that they are pretty much all the same.
He now has a catheter permanently and that limits the choices for an ALF. He is demanding and difficult. He's been at the new one for about a month now and fell last night trying to adjust the heat in the room; he's supposed to call the staff for that. He's o.k., just a sore shoulder. They are moving him to a private room because he will not stop yelling for someone. He disturbed his roomate. So now it costs a lot more, of course.
The ALF can kick him out for this and has told us that recently they gave someone a 30 day notice to leave.
I guess they can do that, but what do we do? It's hard to find a place that will take him. He'd like to live with one of us, but we're not set up to handle his care, we have steps, etc. When he was in his home, he refused all outside help.
Any suggestions? Thank you!
Could some of this be that he is deliberately doing this so that he is asked to leave and you or other family have to take him in? Could he believe that if he pushes this that will happen? I'd speak with the social worker at the AL to see what NH options are out there for him and start to look at those rather than another AL.
If he is super difficult, I'd be concerned that he will sign himself out of the AL and move into an apt. There are some elders who are just so spiteful that they will place themselves in a situation in which they cannot function so that family has to come and rescue them. Whatever you do, please don't let him stay with you!