Mom is 83, lives alone in own home with assistance from me and a dtr-in-law. She puts on a good act with other people and her doctor so they think she is "of sound mind." We take very good care of her, but in some instances, she will say things to other people that I know they are thinking otherwise. How do we get her to stop doing this. I've called her out on her untruths, and she seems to be contrite, then the next time we are with someone else, will repeat the lie. What to do?
I will on occasion remind her right before we go somewhere (like the bank) not to say this or that. She can remember it in the moment...but only if I tell her right before we are there.
If your mom looks well cared for, is clean and not losing weight, I doubt others will put too much stock into what she's saying about her care. If you're with her, you can just "Oh mom, you're exaggerating" or whatever is closer to the truth. Good luck - it's hard to take care of these seniors and maintain our sanity sometimes!
It must be said, though, that they certainly COULD deem her unfit to live alone. That, after all, is part of what they do -- safeguard people like your mom.
I would make sure the house was getting regularly cleaned by you or others...that there was always fresh food in the fridge...and that obvious fall hazards were addressed to the best of your ability.
Just.in.case.